Life is just to short to always have to explain your every way just so one can feel validated, always feeling the need to have to say anything above everything, you can't control it all and things that you can't you should improve on your ability to let it go , and when you try to control everything you fall out of time out of tune with those things you should be focusing more of into them , your personal growth begins and starts within you and grow through your self improvements so you are continually progressing into a better you , even as an adult you can be wrong in the way you choose to delve through most importantly your own self awareness reflects outwardly and what you are internally becomes of your children and what you change in you becomes the best projection of you so your kids only grow as much as a whole as you allow yourself to change in you , so like a mirror rfelctin what looks best on you , you see that it don't fit you , and you change , you need to understand that being the coolest kid in school don't make them the coolest kid , you find that important above all else your worried thell be bullied picked on or unseen , that's your trauma