[Verse 1]
My father never cried in front of me
He’d lose a friend, then quietly make tea
He’d say, “I’m fine,” and stare down at the floor
Like every man had learned those words before
So I learned how to swallow every ache
How to smile when something starts to break
I learned to laugh when I was terrified
’Cause boys grow up believing tears should hide
[Pre-Chorus]
So I carried every goodbye
Every failure, every lie
Like a stone beneath my skin
Never letting anybody in
[Chorus]
‘Cause men don’t cry
That’s what they told us
Stand up straight
Don’t let them notice
Hold your breath
When your whole world dies
Shake their hand
And say you’re alright
Men don’t break
Men don’t bleed
Men don’t beg for what they need
So I became the strongest man alive
At least that’s what they called me
While I was dying inside
[Verse 2]
I held my mother when her mother died
Then went into the bathroom, locked it tight
I bit my hand so no one heard a sound
Was scared that if I started, I’d drown
I lost some friends I never called again
Not because I didn’t love them then
I just never learned the words to say
“Brother, I’m not doing well today”
[Pre-Chorus]
So I buried every goodbye
Every “help me” every night
Built a fortress out of pride
Then wondered why I felt alone inside
[Chorus]
‘Cause men don’t cry
That’s what they told us
Stand up straight
Don’t let them notice
Hold your breath
When your whole world dies
Shake their hand
And say you’re alright
Men don’t break
Men don’t bleed
Men don’t beg for what they need
So I became the strongest man alive
At least that’s what they called me
While I was dying inside
[Bridge]
Then one night
I couldn’t hold it anymore
No whiskey
No anger
No slamming doors
I just sat down on the kitchen floor
And cried
For the boy I used to be
For my father
For my friends
For every time somebody asked me
And I lied to them again
I cried until my chest stopped hurting
Cried until the morning came
And for the first time in my whole damn life
I wasn’t ashamed
[Final Chorus]
So let men cry
Let somebody hold us
Let us say
“I need you to notice”
Let us fall
When our whole world dies
We can break
And still survive
Men can hurt
Men can bleed
Men can say exactly what they need
And maybe that’s what being strong is like
Not standing there unbroken
But breaking…
And choosing life
[Outro]
My father never cried in front of me
Maybe nobody told him he was free
So if I ever have a son someday
I’ll teach him strength a different way
I’ll tell him,
“Son, you don’t have to hide.”
And if his whole world falls apart
I’ll sit beside him
When he cries.